15 times we actively rooted against love

Carrie and Big — Sex and the City

Ugh. This relationship has toxic written all over it. It should have come with a biohazard suit. I know these two are supposed to represent one of television’s greatest and most seminal relationships, but they are awful together. Terrible. All they do is hurt each other. Over and over.

I could talk about the unsettling patriarchal father stuff this relationship has going on and fill up ten websites. She calls him Mr. Big, and he calls her kiddo. They dance around a disgusting power dynamic for the entirety of their relationship. Of course, for the majority of the series, Big always had the upper hand and the emotional range of a toddler, only participating with things that made him instantly gratified.

More troubling, however, is their propensity to hurl themselves toward each other, knocking over everything and everyone in their path. Carrie cheated on Aidan with Big, Big cheated on his model wife with Carrie, and they still couldn’t really figure it out. He tried with the whole proposal in the movie but, like always, left her devastated and disappointed standing in the street in a wedding gown that cost more than my car.

Their whole couple vibe reeks of discontent and agony. One was always chasing the other in hopeless ritual of “who’s going to get the upper hand this time.” As Carrie got older, it became harder and harder to watch this smart, beautiful, accomplished woman throw herself at a man who couldn’t decide if he wanted her or not. I’ll take Post-It Note Burger over him any day.